And yet everyone now and then I see a glimmer of hope. The other day my husband was taking him to school. As they were approaching the front door to the school, there was a mother and child behind them, so naturally my husband held my son back and they both held the door for the ladies. Yet, the mother was hesitant and tried to insist that my husband go ahead (typical for the north). And out of nowhere another mother walked around the hesitant mother saying outloud "You might as well walk in. They're from the south and they'll stand there all day holding that door open."
When my husband told me the story, I was stunned for two reasons: 1) they actually knew where we were from despite never making eye contact with me, much less conversation, and
2) they knew about chivalry down south.